How Can I?

by Tony Yost

What you tell yourself when an opportunity presents itself can make a major difference in the results you get.

For example, if you see something you want and you tell yourself “I can’t afford that.”, you immediately shut down any possibilities of getting it.

Instead, if you will ask yourself the question, “How can I afford that?”, your mind (both conscious and subconscious) sets about trying to find an answer your question. You think “Maybe I can go in with someone to get it.” or “Maybe I could sell x and use the money to buy it.” or “Maybe I can find it online cheaper.” or …? The possibilities go on and on.

The “How can I…?” question opens you to all sorts of possibilities for getting what you want, where as the flat statement “I can’t …” excludes any options.

This doesn’t just apply to money. Instead of “I can never learn a new language.”, you might ask “How can I learn a new language?”. Or, instead of “There’s no way I can lose weight.”, you might ask “How can I lose weight?”. Or instead of “I don’t know how to use a computer.”, how about “How can I learn to use a computer?”.

You are infinitely more likely to find a way to make it happen when you ask “How can I…?, than when you close the door with “I can’t…”.

Switch “I can’t…” to “How can I…?” and watch the difference it creates in your life.